A central fact of our existence is this deep feeling of isolation and disconnect. We feel very deeply disconnected from the world around us. We feel separate from others. We feel as though no one will ever love us. We feel as though we will end up living alone without a companion or close friend all through life. This is especially true for loners like myself.
In our minds, we imagine other people to be having a ball. We imagine other people to be so happy and loved and cared for while we languish alone in our own isolation. This feeling of separation casts a huge burden on us. Infact, it has been the central fact of my life. The feeling of being separate from life and the people around me has dominated most of the moments of my life. This feeling has given rise to the desire for companionship. But will the appearance of a companion eliminate this fundamental feeling of isolation?
Why do we feel so separate from other people? Why do we feel the need to stay in our own caves and avoid any interaction with the outside world? Why do we choose to remain reclusive? At this moment, there are so many people who are feeling separate. There are people who feel lonely even in a relationship, which can be even worse than the loneliness of being alone. Can the presence or care of another person permanently extinguish the feeling of isolation? We are each alone inside our own minds. Sometimes, we form communities or create group activities in order to foster connection among people. But each of us ultimately returns to our own internal worlds where we are essentially alone.
Imagine being in a loving relationship. There are moments of connection wherein you forget yourself and experience bliss. But this feeling does not last for long. All of us, no matter who, ultimately has to face the fact of our own aloneness. We are fundamentally alone. Effort has to be made to connect with others. Effort has to be made to maintain a relationship. But our natural state is solitary. We have no choice in this regard. Can we really depend on the outside world to end our feeling of isolation at its most fundamental level?
Loneliness combined with boredom can be an excruciating experience. To endure it for extended periods of time can have drastic effects on the mind. It can affect your thinking. But what here is the remedy? What is it about our existence that causes this fundamental sense of isolation?
If you were the only person in the world, you would not know what loneliness was. Every where around us, we see people enjoying each others company. We see lovers embracing and experiencing contentment. We see friends chatting and having fun. Everywhere around us, we see people enjoying each other. This is then compared to our internal state of feeling isolated. We compare our state 'lonely' with their 'happy' state. This further enhances our sense of isolation. We see that other people are so busy enjoying each other that they do not notice how separate we are feeling from their enjoyment. We start beliving that other people do not care about us and are only interested in enjoying each others company. This is a feedback loop which strengthens itself and leads to increased feelings of isolation.
So, it seems that the cause of the feeling of isolation is witnessing the insensitivity and uncaring attitude others who are busy enjoying each other and do not want us to be a part of them. This world then is perceived as uncaring and insensitive. If there were no other people, there would be no loneliness. So, it is the perceived behavior of others that is responsible for causing the sense of isolation in us. No one can look into our heads and see what we are thinking. Our thoughts are opaque. As long as our thoughts are opaque, we will feel separate.
Do not expect care from the world. Do not expect anyone to see your thoughts and know your feelings. True relationship can only happen when thoughts are not distinct. This world is designed to broadcast separation. As long as you live in this world, you will feel separate. Even the people that you perceive as enjoying each other is just a mirage. An illusion. Believing this illusion causes you to feel separate. Do not be fooled by appearances. We all belong to the same source. This is our true home. It is only here that we will lose separation. All your feelings of isolation come from having forgotten your source and believing in appearance. Know where you come from and you will never feel separate.
In our minds, we imagine other people to be having a ball. We imagine other people to be so happy and loved and cared for while we languish alone in our own isolation. This feeling of separation casts a huge burden on us. Infact, it has been the central fact of my life. The feeling of being separate from life and the people around me has dominated most of the moments of my life. This feeling has given rise to the desire for companionship. But will the appearance of a companion eliminate this fundamental feeling of isolation?
Why do we feel so separate from other people? Why do we feel the need to stay in our own caves and avoid any interaction with the outside world? Why do we choose to remain reclusive? At this moment, there are so many people who are feeling separate. There are people who feel lonely even in a relationship, which can be even worse than the loneliness of being alone. Can the presence or care of another person permanently extinguish the feeling of isolation? We are each alone inside our own minds. Sometimes, we form communities or create group activities in order to foster connection among people. But each of us ultimately returns to our own internal worlds where we are essentially alone.
Imagine being in a loving relationship. There are moments of connection wherein you forget yourself and experience bliss. But this feeling does not last for long. All of us, no matter who, ultimately has to face the fact of our own aloneness. We are fundamentally alone. Effort has to be made to connect with others. Effort has to be made to maintain a relationship. But our natural state is solitary. We have no choice in this regard. Can we really depend on the outside world to end our feeling of isolation at its most fundamental level?
Loneliness combined with boredom can be an excruciating experience. To endure it for extended periods of time can have drastic effects on the mind. It can affect your thinking. But what here is the remedy? What is it about our existence that causes this fundamental sense of isolation?
If you were the only person in the world, you would not know what loneliness was. Every where around us, we see people enjoying each others company. We see lovers embracing and experiencing contentment. We see friends chatting and having fun. Everywhere around us, we see people enjoying each other. This is then compared to our internal state of feeling isolated. We compare our state 'lonely' with their 'happy' state. This further enhances our sense of isolation. We see that other people are so busy enjoying each other that they do not notice how separate we are feeling from their enjoyment. We start beliving that other people do not care about us and are only interested in enjoying each others company. This is a feedback loop which strengthens itself and leads to increased feelings of isolation.
So, it seems that the cause of the feeling of isolation is witnessing the insensitivity and uncaring attitude others who are busy enjoying each other and do not want us to be a part of them. This world then is perceived as uncaring and insensitive. If there were no other people, there would be no loneliness. So, it is the perceived behavior of others that is responsible for causing the sense of isolation in us. No one can look into our heads and see what we are thinking. Our thoughts are opaque. As long as our thoughts are opaque, we will feel separate.
Do not expect care from the world. Do not expect anyone to see your thoughts and know your feelings. True relationship can only happen when thoughts are not distinct. This world is designed to broadcast separation. As long as you live in this world, you will feel separate. Even the people that you perceive as enjoying each other is just a mirage. An illusion. Believing this illusion causes you to feel separate. Do not be fooled by appearances. We all belong to the same source. This is our true home. It is only here that we will lose separation. All your feelings of isolation come from having forgotten your source and believing in appearance. Know where you come from and you will never feel separate.
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