Relationship

Thought itself is attachment. Relationships are one's biggest attachment here. The fear of being alone is the fear of having no relationships. Without relationships, who am I?

When there is no relationship, what remains? That which remains always, whether you are with someone or without, that alone is true. There can be no fundamental relationship. At a fundamental level, there is supreme aloneness. No relationship is possible at the deepest level. Relationship is only a thought. Who you are is incapable of relationship. Because there are no others here. Only emptiness.

Voidness

What is truly wisdom? No matter how many books or scriptures one pores through. Intellectual and theoretical knowledge is completely bland. It is of no use when the real tests arrive. When there is suffering or some great darkness has enveloped the mind, mere theoretical knowledge is completely useless. What then is of real value? A strategy to avoid suffering is of no use. Instead go deep into suffering and endure it. That itself will result in true knowledge. Knowledge which is part of your being. Mere reading of books is of no use here.

The truth as they say is 'Consciousness is all there is'. But how has knowing this really affected your life?
You find yourself still operating under the same thought patterns. Infact, you find that life is still exactly how it was before the knowledge arrived. Mere intellectual knowing makes absolutely no difference.

What is really the fundamental fear?
It is that if I do not act, if I refuse to be a part of life, I will die...
I fear that I am really incapable of deciding what actions to perform...
i find myself incapable of determining how to live an effective life..
I find myself incompetent...
I have no idea how to live my life...what needs to be done and what needs to be avoided
I am unable to determine the right time for action...
I am unable to determine whether to act on my desires or not to act on them..
I find myself unable to determine which path to choose..
Infact, I find myself completely incompetent in life skills...
I don't know what to do and what to avoid...
I don't know if I am right or wrong...
I find other people living life so smoothly whereas I keep stumbling along...
I find others so bold whereas I am stuck in my fears...
How is life supposed to feel like?
How am I supposed to decide what to do?
I find myself detesting other people
Detesting all whose lives seem so smooth...
What am I supposed to desire
What am I supposed to do
Is happiness the goal of life
Whose advice to follow
Should I hold on or let go?
Should I be working or relaxing?
Having choices is a source of great misery
How does one walk the middle path
Why is life so uncertain?
Why is my knowledge all theoretical?
 I don't know anything..
Should I even be writing this now?
My great tendency is to escape into isolation
Is it good or bad?
Who will answer these questions..
Only I see the thoughts in my head and the countless decisions made every second...
Why am I feeling so full of dread?
Is it only a thought effect?
Why do I feel terrified of isolating myself?
What is this world and who am I?
There is a great fear inside...
Fear of not knowing...
Its terrible, this state...
I feel like I am losing hold of things...
Falling into the void...
That I will fail...
And fall...
In this moment, there exists a great void...an absence
Nothing to do, no one to be with...

Consciousness is all there is

Remember this forever:

There is only consciousness.

Consciousness alone exits.

Consciousness is all there is.

This alone is everything. Nothing else needs to be known.

Thus we have been told.

Remember

Its good to remember this:
You cannot predict anything. The mind can only create deluded notions.
All these notions are nothing but fancies. It is better to not trust the mind.
Nothing that it shows is true. It leads only to greed and destruction.

Peace lies beyond all notions. Even the notion of liberation is bondage.

 

Living in the world of forms

This world appearance is inseparable from consciousness. Thus, it will never cease.
Consciousness will always assume some form, although only consciousness alone exists. Is it possible for a flower to exist without its perfume? Or ice to abandon its coolness? Similarly, this universe is nothing but consciousness. It is the flavor of consciousness.

So, the best course is to live in this world knowing the truth of consciousness. This world appearance is made possible by the mere existence of consciousness which alone exits.

Thus we have been told.
 

Fear of being alone

Who is afraid of loneliness and being alone?
It is only the mind which fears being alone.
The thought of being alone only occurs to the mind.
The Self alone is. Even the concept of being alone only makes sense when there is the thought of 'others'

When there are no others, there is no 'one'. This is a fundamental fear. Fear of 'non-existence'.
 

Relationship and misery

We spend our whole lives seeking meaningful relationships. Yet, it is relationships which cause us most suffering. It is our relationships that we are most attached to. It is here that most of our energies are directed. And it is here that most of our troubles are caused. There is nothing which causes so much misery as relationships. To be attached to relationships will cause nothing but suffering. Avoiding relationships will cause even more suffering. The best course therefore is to allow relationships to arise. No need to get attached or seek to avoid. Just remember that in every relationships, it is just a role that you are playing. You are not your role. You have absolutely nothing to gain or lose from relationships. Ultimately all relationships are illusory. No point being attached and giving over too much power to these issues.

When caught in the grip of relationship, remember that these are all just passing shows and have absolutely nothing to do with what you are. Caring too much breeds only misery. This includes approval by others. Caring about others approval or criticism is a complete waste of time. Be free from the bonds of relationship. Be free from the desire to avoid relationships as well. All your relationships are illusory. Consciousness alone exists.