Suffering is caused not by external situations, but by our inner response to situations. We suffer our overactive imaginations.
Our inner response to the outside world/external situations determines our degree of suffering/anguish.
When the inner response is based on truth/understanding, then there is perfect alignment. You cannot cheat yourself out of truth.
This simple realization if truly internalized can heal a lot of trauma. But it can take a lot of suffering to truly internalize it.
Blessed are those who realize it sooner rather than later.